There's a freedom with dancing. A chance to express yourself and to let all you worries glide away on flow of the music...that's what I've been told anyway.
Personally, I hate dancing. Unless I have someone to actually dance with I mostly just stand there and bounce on the balls of my feet like the awkward white kid that I am, and when I actually try to dance it's like watching a crack addict have a seizure. So, to say the least dancing really doesn't hold much appeal to me. Needless to say, the same can not be said for those who are gifted with the ability to look like a complete jackass and yet still have the coolness factor to write it off as actual dancing.
Most of the people with that ability are women, and why not? They usually are the ones who blow off steam by going out for a night of "just dancing." This goes back to the first sentence in this little post. From what I've been told is that there's a freedom in it.
I went to a bar last night called the Mad Hatter where every Thursday night they have an 18+ night. Since my social life can be compared to that of a turtle, rarely venturing outside of my shell usually to run back in, terrified (or just pissed off) by the events of doing so; I decided to go and see if I could have a nice night and maybe meet a couple of people.
So I payed my five dollar cover charge, got my little armband that says I was under 21 and sheepishly made my way to the edge of the dance floor. Now I realize I keep getting off topic so I'll finally get to the point of the dancing. When used by college students or teenagers in general, dancing is code for "grinding," which is code for "dry humping in public."
It doesn't really matter what you say there's no getting around it, telling someone that you're going to the club is basically saying "I'm going to go to a dance place to try and find someone to dry hump for a couple of hours and get real sweaty with, I'll let you know about lunch tomorrow."
Now, as I've already stated I do not enjoy dancing, unless I have someone to do it with, which at a dance club there are plenty of people to do it with. The problem for me is the style. It seems like the key is just getting in there and doing it, like ridding a bull, just jump on and hold on for as long as you can. This however goes against my upbringing. Any of the girls who don't walk around in a little pack of "just dancing" short skirts (who somehow can't understand why guys won't leave them alone) just seem to dance with whoever is brave enough to just grab on and go.
Now don't get me wrong, I'm not looking down on this, by all means if I could do this I would (sorry I'm a guy) but I can't and maybe I'm just jealous but I don't really understand it.
First of all, I just know that if I was to try this I would be rejected due to the girl feeling she would be overshadowed by my amazing dancing skills. But mostly, I just can't get over the feeling that just grabbing onto someone's ass like a horny tick is molestation somehow. So I feel a compulsive need to ask "Do you want to dance?"
This is a mistake, never do this, asking someone to dance in a dance club is like driving up to a Chucky Cheese in a plain white van and asking "Do you want any candy?" So just don't do that.
So, needless to say, I didn't dance with anyone. I left five dollars lighter, sweaty, tired, and with a ringing in my ears that hasn't quite gone away yet. I went to the Mad Hatter to see if this kind of thing was something I would enjoy doing; I left realizing that it's not really my scene.
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This reminds me of the dance parties my hall used to have every Thursday. The first couple times, when our sophomore advisors ran it, it was the 'normal' dancing....basically just everyone bouncing around. But then our This reminds me of the dance parties my hall used to have every Thursday. The first couple times, when our sophomore advisors ran it, it was the 'normal' dancing....basically just everyone bouncing around. But then our freshmen guys took over, and it quickly turned into a weekly hour long massive grind session. Ha, but the great thing was, at Rose, there are 4-5 guys to every girl typically. And the grind session wasn't really the style of the majority of girls in my dorm, so they lost of lot of business. It quickly died when it was always just 2 girls and about 20 guys. It was apparently a little too awkward for the guys, so the weekly dance parties are now no more.freshmen guys took over, and it quickly turned into a weekly hour long massive grind session. Ha, but the great thing was, at Rose, there are 4-5 guys to every girl typically. And the grind session wasn't really the style of the majority of girls in my dorm, so they lost of lot of business. It quickly died when it was always just 2 girls and about 20 guys. It was apparently a little too awkward for the guys, so the weekly dance parties are no more. =)
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You're just jealous that you can't get with the ladies. They probably didn't mind you asking. It's possible that they just didn't want to dance with you. But if you wanted to do some actual dancing, a bar is probably not the best place for that. You had to have known that is what goes on at bars, but then again you had something that could barely be considered a social life. Maybe if you want to find some quality people and have some fun, stop writing your whiney blog and TALK to people.
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